Getting Along - Healthy Interactions - Instant Download Workbook

"Getting Along - A Guide for Healthy Interactions"

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Improve Both Verbal and Non-Verbal Communication!

A 60-page client workbook, simply crammed with practical and truly useful education pages and easy yet meaningful worksheet assignments.

Designed to help clients understand what is and what is not effective (or acceptable) communication - both verbal and non-verbal.

Written in plain language with easy to understand concepts and real-life examples.

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TABLE OF CONTENTS:

About This Workbook and the Authors ----------------page 3
A Note From The Authors ------------------------------page 4

Recognizing UnHealthy Behaviors
Automatic Behaviors ----------------------------------page 5
UnHealthy Methods of Verbal Expression ------------page 6
Apathetic -----------------------------------------------page 6
Menacing -----------------------------------------------page 11
Hostile-Martyr ----------------------------------------- page 15
Just Plain Mean ---------------------------------------- page 19

Healthy Methods of Verbal Expression
Self-Directed -------------------------------------------page 23
Just Plain Nice ------------------------------------------page 27
Feelings, Wants and Needs ----------------------------page 31
Feelings -------------------------------------------------page 31
Wants ---------------------------------------------------page 35
Needs ---------------------------------------------------page 39
Methods of Non-Verbal Expression --------------------page 43
Body Language -----------------------------------------page 43
UnHealthy Physical Expression ------------------------page 46
Healthy Physical Expression ---------------------------page 50
Healthy Listening Expression --------------------------page 53
Verbally Expressing a Willingness to Listen -----------page 53
Non-Verbally Expressing a Willingness to Listen ------page 54

Recognizing, Removing and Replacing
UnHealthy Behaviors ------------------------------------page 56
Making Changes -----------------------------------------page 56
Practice and Effort ---------------------------------------page 60
( Corresponding Worksheets Follow Each Section )

EXCERPT:

When people use Hostile-Martyr (or passive-aggressive, or menacing-victim) Expression as a form of Communication, they may:

> state only that they are ‘fine’, when they obviously are not,

> present themselves as suffering (often silently), and placing the blame on someone or something else,

> perform “innocent” actions, with hidden malicious or selfish intents or agendas,

> expect or demand others to read their minds and perform accordingly,

> deliberately “forget” or “misplace” something that they don’t want to do or give up

> not express their anger or frustration, but do something in “revenge” anyway.

Examples:

“Oh, I’m just fine. Since you didn’t get me any aspirin, I suppose I can just live another day with my throbbing headache.”
“I didn’t pack your lunch today, because since you didn’t come home for dinner yesterday, I assumed you had given up eating.”
“I called your friend and told them that you didn’t really have time to go to their party. Now you’ll have time to go to dinner with me.”

After reading these examples, you may say:
“Hey, that sounds just like me (or my spouse or my friend)!”
“But what does it mean?”
“Is it wrong or bad to use Hostile-Martyr Expression?”

Let us explore some contradicting definitions and concepts:

Look at the words “Hostile” and “Martyr”:
A hostile person sees others as enemies, and instigates confrontation or battle.
A martyr will choose self-sacrifice and suffer without resistance, just for the cause or principle of an issue.

Look at the words “Menacing” and “Victim”:
A menacing person controls, intimidates, and belittles other people.
A victim is generally one who has been controlled, intimidated, or belittled.

Look at the words “Passive” and “Aggressive”:
A passive person does nothing to preserve themselves.
An aggressive person seeks to preserve themselves only.

The intent of these definitions is not to infer that a person has two conflicting personalities, but only to demonstrate that a person who uses Hostile-Martyr Expression can be destructive (degrading, belittling, condemning) to both themselves and others.

In other words, it is to point out that:
When you use Hostile-Martyr Expression, you intentionally, yet secretly, give up control of your Feelings, Wants and Needs to others, and then expect others to respect and meet your Feelings, Wants and Needs, without ever letting them know you have any in the first place, knowing that they will fail you.

Why would anyone do this?

> out of habit (they learned this communication pattern as a child)

> out of a need for power and control (by making others look bad or feel stupid they

> think they are ‘better’ or in control)

> out of a need for self-esteem and self-confidence (same as above)

> out of a feeling of entitlement (they believe that others should bow down to them, or expect nothing from them)

Fortunately, those who use Hostile-Martyr Expression:

> can change their UnHealthy communication habits, by learning to use Self-Directed and Just Plain Nice Expression Patterns

> can learn to gain power and control

> can build self-esteem and self-confidence

> through healthy behavioral options, without hurting others, or themselves.

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This client workbook's contents are appropriate for use by all mental health professional counseling counselors (LPC, LCPC, LPCC, MHC, RMHC, NCC), marriage and family therapy therapists (MFT, LMFT, RMFT), social work social workers (SW, LCSW, LMSW, SWA, LICSW), psychologists, psychology associates (LPA), chemical dependency substance abuse counselors (LCDC, CADC, CAD, DAC, CAAD, CSAC), and nursing registered nurses (RN, LPN, LVN), and related behavioral health professionals.